Why We’re Keeping Our Elopement Plans Private (And Why That’s Not an Invitation to Show Up Anyway)

Let’s get one thing out of the way: the idea of guests at our elopement is my idea of hell. Not just “mildly inconvenient” or “a little awkward”—I mean full-on, stress-sweat, please-let-the-ground-swallow-me hell.

We’re planning an elopement because we want something quiet, meaningful, and completely ours. That means no crowd, no audience, no one asking where they should sit or if the ceremony is “going to start soon” while we’re still trying to get dressed. We love you. We really do. But we also really love not being anxious on the day we get married.

Recently, I heard about someone who planned a private elopement, only for their family to surprise them by showing up. I cannot stress this enough: if that happened to us, the only surprise would be how quickly I’d disappear into the nearest bush. Romantic, right?

We’re not doing this to be mysterious or edgy or to start a new family feud. We’re doing this because we want to be fully present with each other—no stage, no script, no pressure. We will share videos and photos and I promise you will get to feel like you were there.

So if you’re reading this and wondering why you don’t know when or where it’s happening—good! That means our plan is working. We’ll share the magic when it’s all said and done, but for now, we’re keeping it quiet, cozy, and delightfully people-free.

Thanks for understanding—and for not hiding in the bushes.